Continued explorations into the paradox of choice, based on Positive Psychology in Practice (P Linley & S Joseph 2004).
Social Comparison: Keeping up with Jones
We have seen how the quest for the next best thing keeps happiness at arm’s length. If an individual creates a dynamic of dissatisfaction by constantly seeking out a better alternative, one of the ways in which this plays out is through social comparison: That person has more money, is better looking, has a better position, etc. Or, I have more money than that person, am better looking, have a better position, etc.
If your happiness depends on the performance of others, it isn’t yours. It is an illusion that exists at the mercy of something outside of your control.
There is always somebody with more of this and less of that. For happiness that is genuine and lasting, cultivate attention and appreciation for yourself!
Social Comparison: Keeping up with Jones
We have seen how the quest for the next best thing keeps happiness at arm’s length. If an individual creates a dynamic of dissatisfaction by constantly seeking out a better alternative, one of the ways in which this plays out is through social comparison: That person has more money, is better looking, has a better position, etc. Or, I have more money than that person, am better looking, have a better position, etc.
If your happiness depends on the performance of others, it isn’t yours. It is an illusion that exists at the mercy of something outside of your control.
There is always somebody with more of this and less of that. For happiness that is genuine and lasting, cultivate attention and appreciation for yourself!
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